I received an email this week that left me furious. Not because it came from someone with different taste in clothes than me (we can all rock different styles), but because it embodied everything that’s wrong with how our culture talks to new mothers.

It was titled “Sweats Are for Existential Crises, Not Pregnancy”, and came from a Substack writer who, somewhere along the line, I must have subscribed to. The premise? That wearing tights, tracksuit pants or—gasp—anything that prioritises comfort in pregnancy or postpartum is a sign that you’ve “lost control of your life.”

Yes, really.

All I had ever wanted was to be a mum. I had no plans for any kind of career or travel. I wanted to settle down, get married and have a family. I dreamed about the type of mum I would be. I wanted to be a stay at home mum, making home made baby food and going for long walks. I would be the kindy mum and volunteer in the canteen. I had it all planned out.

How many times have you told yourself "I can't because....."

I can't exercise because I have no one to watch the kids.

I can't catch up with friends because it's too hard to take the kids with me.

I can't afford to join a gym.

I can't work on my own business or go back to work because it's too hard to organise child care…

⁣Book a FREE 15 minute consult with me to discuss;

❥ What issues you are currently experiencing

❥ What you have already tried to solve the problem

❥ If I can help you and what that would look like

Motherhood isn’t easy. We all need support and we were never meant to do motherhood alone.

I want to share with you some ways that asking for help or seeking support can look like.